Mr. X

Here’s an update on Bookworm(7) and her aparents…or rather the update about the divorce and Mr. X…as I’ve now decided to refer to the adad/former adad.

So, Bookworm’s mom hasn’t specifically told me the divorce is final, but she did change her Facebook status to single and so I’m pretty sure it’s final or if it’s not then it will be really soon.

I recently talked/chatted online with Bookworm’s mom to get an update on everything and this is what I found out:

1.) Mr. X got a “slap on the wrist” for his sentence for what he did…if you don’t know…e-mail me or something to let me know who you are etc. and I’ll let you know/give you the password for the previous post that gives those details.

2.) Bookworm’s mom has now moved to her own place and Bookworm is with her and they’ll be adjusting and settling in for the next while or so.

3.) Bookworm’s mom didn’t get sole custody of Bookworm like we were hoping…not sure what it’s called officially or what not, but Mr. X still gets to visit/have Bookworm stay with him…Bookworm stays with him half the summer and 2 holidays a year…I’m not that happy about that right now, but hopefully things will change/work out for the best over the next while here with things.

4.) Bookworm’s mom and I are having a much better friendship/relationship since she kicked Mr. X out and divorced him. She and I are talking a lot more often and being a lot more open and honest with each other and it’s been really good and a really big improvement between us and also with Bookworm herself (i.e. me chatting online more with Bookworm etc.). So, in addition to all the other reasons etc., that was another reason and good thing that has come out of Bookworm’s mom divorcing Mr. X.

5.) Are you sitting down for this one?…I was sitting down for this one and it still threw me off so I had to remember to breathe calmly…Bookworm’s mom is/has already dated a few guys a few times and she now has a boyfriend…say what?…yeah that’s right I said Bookworm’s mom has a boyfriend! Now here comes the other part to sit down for…not only does she have a boyfriend…but she asked me after she told me that she had a cute boyfriend…and I quote “So, how did you know you were suppose to marry your Hubby?”

And I froze, then had to remind myself to breathe while sitting here staring at the computer screen going “WHAT?” before I said/typed back to her “Just a second, I’m thinking…” so I could compose myself and think what to tell her as my answer.

Then I wrote/told her a really long answer/a lot about how it came to be that I met my Hubby and how I knew that it was right to marry him. I also told her a few things that I felt she should know and it was a really good open discussion with her asking my opinion and advice and me answering her questions.

Also, after she dropped the bomb so to speak and we talked about it, I felt better about things and so did she. She’s not going to rush into anything, she’s taking it kinda slow to make sure that it’s the right thing to do and he’s the right guy/right kind of guy for her. She’s also waiting to make sure that Bookworm likes him and he and Bookworm get along and that Bookworm gets along with her boyfriend’s two daughters as well. She wants to make sure everyone gets along and see how everyone meshes together between the two families with her and the Bookworm and him and his two daughters so we’ll see what happens, but I’m just glad that I know about it and we’re talking about this and everything with all the stuff going on, ya know.

6.) Can I just say, Wowie…it’s been one heck of a rollercoaster ride as far as my Bookworm(7) and her mom and all that they’ve been through with this divorce from Mr. X and now dating/thinking of getting married again to Mr. New. Not to mention all the stuff that happened with Mr. X and all the adjustments they’re going through and it’s all been happening within the past year. It’s just wow…so much of a rollercoaster ride in just one year…and I’m just seeing/experiencing a portion of it because it doesn’t affect me the same way as it affects them.

And so that’s all there is to update on Bookworm, her mom and Mr. X (who I’m still really not happy with and still having some anger toward btw, but I suppose considering everything that’s to be expected).

7.) Oh one other thing about Bookworm is that within the next few weeks, I should be getting to talk to her online again =) – YAY! I also recently talked with Sweet Pea’s mom and things are good with them and they’re keeping busy with having a fun summer and all =).

So, I’ve had recent chats/updates with both Bookworm’s mom and Sweet Pea’s mom within the past couple weeks and seen a few recent pictures so things are good with that. And like I mentioned above, I should be getting some more chatting and fun with both of them soon…specifically some chatting with Bookworm =).

And as far as any other news or updates on me, Hubby, my life/our life etc….well, not much to tell other than what I just did…we’re still hanging in there with money and all…but Hubby’s still looking for a job and there’s no other major news to report. He’s also still doing school online and I’ve got to apply/see about doing school online myself soon if I’m going to do it this fall and then we’ll see what other news life brings as things happen and life goes on =).

Have to add…our bird – cordon blue finch is nuts and a little whiny…he flipped out forever the other day because I wasn’t in the same room as him and then when I came back in the same room and sat down…like 5 minutes later he fluffed up and went to sleep – silly bird.  Also is anyone else dying of heat here =p…it can cool down any time now and I’d be just fine with that.

Thought I’d end on a happy note with one of my fave upbeat, happy songs for the day :).

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A Song I’d Like to Dedicate to My Mom

…among others in my life…past,present, future, who have, will or may try to tell me how to live my life etc….like the song says…”who died and made you king of anything?”

Sara Bareilles – King of Anything

Ow ow ow ooow

Keep drinkin coffee stare me down across the table
While I look outside
So many things I’d say if only I were able
But I just keep quiet and count the cars that pass by
You’ve got opinions man we’re all entitled to
But I never asked
So let me thank you for your time
And try not to waste any more of mine
And get out of here fast

I hate to break it to you babe
But I’m not drowning
There’s no one here to save

Who cares if you disagree, you are not me
Who made you king of anything?
So you dare tell me who to be
Who died, and made you king of anything
Whoooo oooh

You sound so innocent all full of good intent
Swear you know best
But you expect me to jump up on board with you
Right off into your delusional sunset

I’m not the one who’s lost with no direction oh
But you’ll never see
You’re so busy making map
And put name on them in all caps
You’ve got the talking down
Just not the listening

Who cares if you disagree, you are not me
Who made you king of anything?
So you dare tell me who to be
Who died, and made you king of anything

All my life I’ve tried
To make everybody happy while I
Just hurt and hide waitin for someone to tell me
It’s my turn to decide

(ow ow ow ow ooow)

Who cares if you disagree, you are not me
Who made you king of anything?
So you dare tell me who to be
Who died, and made you king of anything oh
Who cares if you disagree, you are not me
Who made you king of anything?
So you dare tell me who to be
Who died, and made you king of anything

Let me hold your crown babe
O-oooooh aaaaaaah

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